My personal experience on relationships, take it or leave it!

Wednesday, 8 Feb, 2017


I hate to act like I know it all when it comes to relationships but I'm not acting right now, I kinda know a lot about relationships. Trust me.😜

When you have been in a stable relationship for over 4 years you learn a lot. A lot like, you just can't make a fuss over every little thing that your partner does.

At first, I was going crazy stalking his phone, calling him after every 20 minutes  (to make sure that he wasn't cheating on me)😬
I would throw tantrums every time he came home a little past 9pm and that without even asking if something was wrong.

I just assumed that he was out there with hoes and stuff like that. Well, turned out he was but to be fair, not every other day.😂 But that's a story for another day.

Anyway, one day it just dawned on me that the arguments were hurting me more than anyone else and even when we  talked about it...he was like "why do you like hurting yourself"?

Then I eventually grew a thick skin and started ignoring the small details that would usually drive me crazy. I started focusing on more important things and being unbothered and it was all in bad faith.
My reasoning was "I will show him dust, he won't even recognize me anymore".

I wanted to act like I didn't care at all about him and to me, not asking questions was the ultimate revenge. I wanted him to start questioning my feelings for him like I constantly did. Lol

Little did I know that by changing my attitude, I was slowly drawing him back into my world. Slowly but surely, he started doing everything just like I wanted it done, only this time,I didn't have to ask him to.

He just somehow figured out how to be home early, pick up my calls at all times or at least call me back immediately. Basically, he learned how to please me when I stopped yelling and picking fights with him every single night.

I'm not saying that I'm in a perfect relationship but I do appreciate the far we have come and his efforts to make things right. I no longer count his mistakes or go around looking for problems and that has brought back trust in our relationship.

You will be surprised how letting a person know that you Trust them can make them better!

So, ladies, there is a better way to communicate with your man but shouting, nagging and crying is not it.
I think we often forget that men are only human beings and expecting too much from them only leads to disappointments.

Give your man a chance to figure things out for himself and he just might surprise you. And at the end of the day, remember that Love doesn't keep a record of wrongs!
You will be much happier if you accept that things are not always going to be smooth in your relationship and learn to love and forgive your partner always.

I know it's tempting to compare your relationship with other people's relationships but darling, oh darling, there is nothing as a perfect relationship.
No matter how happy and in-love that other couple seems, they also have their own problems and sometimes, bigger problems than you have.

Hold on to your man and forget about the naysayers. Besides, no one else knows him better than you do.
To other people, he might be a jerk and all but only you can tell the progress that you two have made over time.

They say that "A loving relationship is the foundation of a fulfilling life" so keep the love alive.

Ok, I gotta go now. I'm starting to feel like a relationship expert.😎